My Best Friends Wedding!!


Holy cow, I haven’t been this excited about something in a long time!  A while back my best friend got engaged and I am helping her plan her wedding!  There are a few reasons as to why this is the best news ever.  

  1. Obviously, she is my best friend so I am super excited for her.
  2. Planning weddings is my thing!  I absolutely LOVE planning weddings!
  3. I have always wanted to plan a winter wedding and she wants to have a winter wedding!!!!

So, we have about a year to get everything done.  It’s going to be amazing!  When I am working with someone to plan a wedding, usually the first thing I do is figure out exactly how much help they want from me.  Some people want you to take charge and do everything, while others only want help with design or décor type stuff.  So far, it sounds like I am going to be helping out a lot! Her, her fiancé, and I are going to look at venues on Monday.  I have been doing research on local venues that do winter weddings, since everything has to be indoors and it is not the usual wedding season, some places shut down in the winter.

Everyone, regardless, gets my wedding to do list that I customize to each person I am helping.  Some people want more casual events than others, so sometimes the list can be cut down substantially.  Regardless, I am attaching her list for everyone to see.  I think it gives a good timeline for brides to follow to keep themselves on schedule and not drop the ball in any area of their wedding.

They have already picked their prospective dates at this point and we have a basic guest list to work with.  So while we are looking at venues we will start talking about her dress, what colors she wants to use and the formality of the whole event.  As of now she is looking at a dark blue, red, purple, or teal with white and silver.  I have an entire Pinterest page of ideas to run by her… ☺

I will have random posts as time goes on so you can see the whole thing as it unfolds.  There is so much to do.  I can’t wait!!  Do you guys have any tips or thoughts you would like to share from planning your own weddings?  I would love to hear from you!


Wedding Checklist

Nine Months and Earlier:

  • Start making your guest list
  • Select a venue
  • Engagement photo shoot (if you want the pictures for invites or whatever)
  • Set a date for your wedding
  • Determine the type of wedding you want
    • Formality
    • Time of day
  • Determine a budget
  • Select a record keeping system for payments made
  • Select your officiant
  • Select and order your bridal gown, shoes and headpiece
  • Determine your color scheme
  • Keep track of important dates and activities and payments in a calendar (if you don’t have one I have one for you)
  • Select and book your photographer
  • Order your marriage license (about 1 month before for Kane county)
  • Select your bridal party
    • Maid of honor
    • Best man
    • Bridesmaids
    • Groomsmen
    • Ushers (usually 2)
    • Flower Girl
    • Ring Bearer
  • Choose and send “Save the Date” cards (if you want to)

Six to Nine Months Before:

  • Select attendants dresses, shoes and accessories
  • Select and book caterer, if needed
  • Select and book ceremony musicians or DJ
  • Schedule fittings and delivery dates for your dress
  • Select and book videographer (if you want one)
  • Select and book florist

Four to Six Months Before:

  • Reserve rental items needed for ceremony and reception
  • Select and order wedding invitations, thank you cards, seating cards and programs (if you want to do programs)
  • Reserve a hotel block for out of town guests
  • Start planning your honeymoon
  • Register for gifts
  • Start breaking in your shoes

Two to Four Months Before:

  • Select bakery and order wedding cake
  • Order favors
  • Select and order decorations
  • Book transportation for the wedding day if needed
  • Shop for his wedding ring and your wedding band
  • Purchase wedding attendant gifts
  • Finalize guest list
  • Select and order attire for all the dudes
  • Set date, time and location for your rehearsal dinner

Six to Eight Weeks Before:

  • Mail Invitations
  • Record RSVP’s as the come
  • Send thank you cards as gifts are received
  • Determine your hairstyle, nails and makeup and schedule appointments
  • Finalize shopping for wedding accessories; toasting glasses, ring pillow, guest book etc.
  • Wedding Portraits
  • Find “something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a six pence (or shiny penny) for your shoe”
  • Finalize your menu and drink order

Two to Six Weeks Before:

  • Confirm ceremony details with your officiant
  • Arrange final fitting for your gown and headpiece (make sure everything is EXACTLY how you want it)
  • Make final floral selections
  • Pick up rings
  • Finalize rehearsal dinner plans
  • Make a detailed timeline for your wedding party and service providers
  • Confirm details with all wedding providers
  • Decide if you want to form a receiving line and who will be included in it
  • Contact guest who haven’t RSVP’d yet
  • Meet with photographer and videographer and confirm all special must have photos
  • Meet with musicians/DJ and confirm all music to be played during special events
  • Make sure the entre wedding party has gotten all attire
  • Determine ceremony seating for special guests for ushers
  • Plan layout of reception seating with venue and caterer
  • Finish place cards for assigned seating
  • Do final guest count and notify your caterer and reception site manager

One Week To Go:

  • Pick up wedding attire and do one final fitting to make sure everything is perfect.
  • Do final guest count and notify your caterer and reception site manager
  • Gather everything you will need for the rehearsal and wedding day
  • Review the schedule of events and last minute arrangements with your service providers.
  • Confirm all honeymoon reservations and accommodations

Rehearsal Day:

  • Give your wedding party their gifts
  • Arrange for someone to bring accessories to the ceremony/reception
  • Arrange for someone to return rental items the day after the wedding if you are going on your honeymoon the day after the wedding
  • Give wedding party timeline for the next day
  • Review ceremony seating with ushers

Wedding Day:

  • Eat breakfast!!
  • Give rings to Best man/Maid of Honor
  • Follow your schedule
  • Relax and enjoy your wedding!



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